Children are a blessing, teenagers are a PAIN
I don't know why, but today I am blue. Okay, every day I am blue lately. Today's reason is:
Kevin steals things. Then lies about it.
Today, Keith woke up to take out the trash cans and noticed the door from the kitchen to the garage and door from the garage to the outside was wide open. Mind you it is about 7 am.
Preface:
Kevin decide yesterday when thing came to a head that his life is "sh*t". How does a 12 year old know this? He, I think, is too young to know just how "sh*tty" life can be.
Life is not "sh*tty", things in life can be at times. I can list those things for you right now:
children being hurt/abused & murdered daily is
Longing to tuck in you babies at night but you have to work is
Juggling money around and going without is
Working Saturdays to make ends meet is
Wondering from day to day how things are going to get done is
Constantly worrying when you wake up each day if your 12 year ran away is
Feeling blue and sad for no reason at all is
That is my short list of "sh*tty" things.
That kid has everything a normal kid his age could want. He complains about his clothes. He picks out the rattyest t-shirts to wear and we are reminding him that those shirts are fine for home, but not in public. We told him if he did not comb his hair, he would need to get it cut. He did not comb his hair, so we took him to the barber. We let him decide how he wanted it cut.
My sister let him write down some music he would like and she listened to it before she was going to put it on a CD for him. EVERY song had cussing or inappropriate subject manner.
Nothing he picked would a 12 year old pick out.
So why is Kevins life so poopie??? Beats me. He can't even tell me. All day today he has been a cocky little poo poo head.
Back to today:
So, ya, Kevin ran off this morning. He wore 2 shirts, and a sweat shirt. Keith found him right away and spoke with the the parents of the other kid. Who by the way were going to call CPS on him for the load of poo poo he was feeding them. Keith brought him home and on he car ride he told Keith that he has friends that we don't know about and he'll go there next time.
So, when I woke up and discovered that all this was going on, I was pretty P.O.ed. rightfully, I think. After the last time he took off, we had a chat and he promised he would never do it again. Funny thing about teenagers. They can promise you and they can break their promise and it is ok in their eyes. God forbid I do that. If I do, he tells me. When I remind him, the response I get is 'Oh'. Well, "oh" this: there is not going to be a next time. He takes off, I'll call in a missing persons report and let the police deal with it. If he leaves and just thinks he can wander back when ever he pleases, I have another thing coming. I am not going to put myself, T, E or W through that.
I know there is a good kid in that boy. My fear is that if that poo poo kid continues and refuses to change he'll spend the rest of his life in jail. That good kid like Sunday school & church and family game night. He says please & thank you and does his chore without being reminded. I know he is a good kid. I have seen that good kid. I love that kid.
He's draining me. I already feel or in my case, don't feel very close to God right know. I feel like auto pilot has taken over. I don't need this and it is not fair to all the other kids.
Why does he want to be involved in church if he does things like steal & lie & run away. Why? It makes no sense to want to be apart of something one day a week and live a totally separate life the other 6 days.
It is sad because he does not ever see it. He is working so hard to to live this double life. It has got to be taxing on him. I know it is taxing on the rest of the family. So what now?!?!
Lord, Take this boy in your arms and hold him safely. Help him. Please. Save him before it is too late.
4 Comments:
It's hard for me to imagine what you are going through with K. It sounds, however, that he needs love so badly - perhaps tough love. He must know that since he is living under your roof, he must obey you and Keith. The teenage years are tough ones, and you have happened upon them a little sooner than you would have liked. You might want to try to have special one on one time with him if you can (if he'll allow) - maybe that will help him open up. I'm not knowledgable in this area, just searching for ideas. :)
December 29, 2005 2:05 AM
i think if it were my kid i would get him christian counseling. i think he is really, really hurting and needs some professional help. this isn't just because i am studying counseling now - but i just think it would benefit him so much - and maybe you too as you try to cope with all of this!!
January 09, 2006 8:52 AM
I gotta say, I liked everyone's ideas who have posted. Maybe, one thought, and I'm sure it will be really hard to do, is you or keith, set aside some alone time with him, just 30 minutes or something, maybe every day, or a few times a week, something, where he knows, he gets that time just with you, or Keith, and he doesn't have to fight with anyone else for your attention. Maybe it will get him to open up more. It's a thought?!
January 09, 2006 11:17 AM
with the most loving and non-judgemental typing fingers I have: does K see you guys living "it" 7 days/week or one? I know you're tired and its a struggle to make ends meet, etc. but does he see you in the word and on your knees, etc?
Mandy I love you!!!
January 09, 2006 2:58 PM
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